Comments on: A Blessing or a Curse? http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/01/blessing_or_a_curse/ One Birthmother's Journey through Adoption Tue, 31 Jan 2012 08:28:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Jenn http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/01/blessing_or_a_curse/comment-page-1/#comment-512 Jenn Sat, 29 Jan 2011 02:05:14 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=187#comment-512 O.M.G. I never thought of myself as an abomination before God. Me and the Man upstairs are gonna have to have a long chat about this on Sunday... ;) O.M.G.

I never thought of myself as an abomination before God. Me and the Man upstairs are gonna have to have a long chat about this on Sunday… ;)

]]> By: Princess Sara http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/01/blessing_or_a_curse/comment-page-1/#comment-220 Princess Sara Tue, 18 May 2010 18:53:20 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=187#comment-220 Ditto Amanda...if you can't say anything nice... I think the thing that gets me the most is the "So you know," in the ladies' statement. Because, really, really, is she walking around thinking that we all "know" or believe the same things? It never ceases to amaze me the people who transfer their beliefs on others. I am very involved in my church and feel strongly about my faith, but it isn't right for me to impose that on anyone else. & of course, I don't believe a baby could ever be an abomination. Ditto Amanda…if you can’t say anything nice…

I think the thing that gets me the most is the “So you know,” in the ladies’ statement. Because, really, really, is she walking around thinking that we all “know” or believe the same things? It never ceases to amaze me the people who transfer their beliefs on others. I am very involved in my church and feel strongly about my faith, but it isn’t right for me to impose that on anyone else.

& of course, I don’t believe a baby could ever be an abomination.

]]> By: Joy http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/01/blessing_or_a_curse/comment-page-1/#comment-146 Joy Mon, 12 Apr 2010 12:47:30 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=187#comment-146 Thank you all for your love and support, it's funny the power that the experience I had with that woman still smarts all this time later, but most of the sting comes from this feeling I had of total helplessness - like I should have had something brilliant to say, and I couldn't find the right words. I wanted to say something in response, I wanted to find some word of scripture or something that would humble her to think twice before she ever said something like that to anyone again. At that moment I was embarrassed because I consider myself a Christian and to think - to some people because that lady and I would put the same faith down on a form in the demographic section we are the same. I believe in love, first and foremost and I believe that I don't know enough about anyone to judge their experience. I agree Amanda - whatever happened to "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"? Thank you all for your love and support, it’s funny the power that the experience I had with that woman still smarts all this time later, but most of the sting comes from this feeling I had of total helplessness – like I should have had something brilliant to say, and I couldn’t find the right words. I wanted to say something in response, I wanted to find some word of scripture or something that would humble her to think twice before she ever said something like that to anyone again. At that moment I was embarrassed because I consider myself a Christian and to think – to some people because that lady and I would put the same faith down on a form in the demographic section we are the same. I believe in love, first and foremost and I believe that I don’t know enough about anyone to judge their experience.

I agree Amanda – whatever happened to “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”?

]]> By: Amanda http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/01/blessing_or_a_curse/comment-page-1/#comment-141 Amanda Fri, 09 Apr 2010 19:36:46 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=187#comment-141 As I sit here holding our 12 week old daughter that we were so incredibly blessed to receive through adoption I am sick! I am literally shaking! A baby is NEVER an abomination. I don't understand how anyone can look at another person, whatever their situation may be, and make a judgement like the one this woman made. We are all human! We have no right to judge. I have always been taught, and strongly believe, that we are all children of God. How she could say that one of God's most precious creations is an abomination is beyond me! Besides that, whatever happened to "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!" It's the best advice my mom ever gave me. You are amazing! I think you handled the Crazy Lady beautifully! As I sit here holding our 12 week old daughter that we were so incredibly blessed to receive through adoption I am sick! I am literally shaking!
A baby is NEVER an abomination. I don’t understand how anyone can look at another person, whatever their situation may be, and make a judgement like the one this woman made. We are all human! We have no right to judge. I have always been taught, and strongly believe, that we are all children of God. How she could say that one of God’s most precious creations is an abomination is beyond me!

Besides that, whatever happened to “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all!” It’s the best advice my mom ever gave me.

You are amazing! I think you handled the Crazy Lady beautifully!

]]> By: WarsawMommy http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/01/blessing_or_a_curse/comment-page-1/#comment-116 WarsawMommy Fri, 02 Apr 2010 06:55:37 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=187#comment-116 Oh, my. I am overflowing with REACTION. You know? Can you feel me REACTING? Because I am!! First up: people like that are the reason I left any form of organised religion; the sanctimonious, puritanical, 'you are not one of God's Chosen Ones, but I am' thinking and judgementalism makes me sick. Hypocritical, smug people, with no real sense of what religion is all about. Gah! Second up: people who claim to know how things are seen 'in God's eyes' are really full of it. I firmly believe that God (or whomever your chosen deity may be) looks with better, kinder, more understanding and loving eyes than most people do. Third up: you know full well (I hope) that your baby is a blessing, a little miracle, an amazing thriving little LIFE. And when you give him to Beth and John, they will look at him every day with better eyes than those that woman chose to use... they will see him for the little miracle that he is. The thought that your sweet baby could ever be a curse is ridiculous. You know that, right? Oh, my. I am overflowing with REACTION. You know? Can you feel me REACTING? Because I am!!

First up: people like that are the reason I left any form of organised religion; the sanctimonious, puritanical, ‘you are not one of God’s Chosen Ones, but I am’ thinking and judgementalism makes me sick. Hypocritical, smug people, with no real sense of what religion is all about. Gah!

Second up: people who claim to know how things are seen ‘in God’s eyes’ are really full of it. I firmly believe that God (or whomever your chosen deity may be) looks with better, kinder, more understanding and loving eyes than most people do.

Third up: you know full well (I hope) that your baby is a blessing, a little miracle, an amazing thriving little LIFE. And when you give him to Beth and John, they will look at him every day with better eyes than those that woman chose to use… they will see him for the little miracle that he is.

The thought that your sweet baby could ever be a curse is ridiculous. You know that, right?

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