Comments on: Tuesday Topics: Skippy was Adopted Too! http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/06/skippy-was-adopted-too/ One Birthmother's Journey through Adoption Tue, 31 Jan 2012 08:28:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Princess Sara http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/06/skippy-was-adopted-too/comment-page-1/#comment-222 Princess Sara Tue, 18 May 2010 19:03:09 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=197#comment-222 I remember this theme being the same for many TV shows/movies I saw growing up: Kid goes in search of birth parents only to be rejected and find out they were better off before looking. That always sat a little off with me, and I never really thought about why. I think it has to do with the fact that I must've known deep down that not all birthparents are rejecting their babies. I also have a slightly different experience with adoption. I was born and raised by the same mother, but she separated from my birthfather while I was still an infant. When my mom remarried I was 5. Within the next year or two, I was given the choice of having my new dad adopt me. For me, adoption was not about being separated from my birthparents. It was about becoming closer linked to my Dad, the one that was there for me every day. I remember this theme being the same for many TV shows/movies I saw growing up: Kid goes in search of birth parents only to be rejected and find out they were better off before looking. That always sat a little off with me, and I never really thought about why. I think it has to do with the fact that I must’ve known deep down that not all birthparents are rejecting their babies.

I also have a slightly different experience with adoption. I was born and raised by the same mother, but she separated from my birthfather while I was still an infant. When my mom remarried I was 5. Within the next year or two, I was given the choice of having my new dad adopt me. For me, adoption was not about being separated from my birthparents. It was about becoming closer linked to my Dad, the one that was there for me every day.

]]> By: Joy http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/06/skippy-was-adopted-too/comment-page-1/#comment-148 Joy Mon, 12 Apr 2010 12:54:38 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=197#comment-148 Amanda your post made me laugh! Like you, I was always raised with the knowledge that I was adopted, and quite frankly I've learned that I am so comfortable with being adopted that it often shocks people! It's just a part of who I am, and something I hardly think of anymore. Especially now that I've met my Birthmother and I am blessed to have two mothers who love me and are a part of my life. Amanda your post made me laugh! Like you, I was always raised with the knowledge that I was adopted, and quite frankly I’ve learned that I am so comfortable with being adopted that it often shocks people! It’s just a part of who I am, and something I hardly think of anymore. Especially now that I’ve met my Birthmother and I am blessed to have two mothers who love me and are a part of my life.

]]> By: Amanda http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/06/skippy-was-adopted-too/comment-page-1/#comment-142 Amanda Fri, 09 Apr 2010 20:04:41 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=197#comment-142 I'm glad you like being off topic because here's a new one for you. I've always known that I am adopted. I always thought, and still do think, that it's something really special about me. Growing up it always surprized me that on t.v. being adopted was portrayed as something to keep quiet, or something to be ashamed of. Characters would find out that they were adopted and feel horribly. I never understood it. I am also a mother to 3 great kids, 2 of which are adopted. I'm so glad that my parents raised me to be proud of who I am. I hope to be able to do that for my children. As far as my birthmom or birthdad, mine was a closed adoption so I've never had the chance to meet them. I've never felt the need to look until recently. I would love to tell them that they made the right choice for me and that I love them! I am happy and I love my life! But to be completely honest, there is that fear of rejection that lurks around the corner. My parents were so good at making sure I always knew that my birthmom loved me more than words can say. So why am I so nervous? Maybe I've been watching too much t.v.! :) I’m glad you like being off topic because here’s a new one for you. I’ve always known that I am adopted. I always thought, and still do think, that it’s something really special about me. Growing up it always surprized me that on t.v. being adopted was portrayed as something to keep quiet, or something to be ashamed of. Characters would find out that they were adopted and feel horribly. I never understood it. I am also a mother to 3 great kids, 2 of which are adopted. I’m so glad that my parents raised me to be proud of who I am. I hope to be able to do that for my children. As far as my birthmom or birthdad, mine was a closed adoption so I’ve never had the chance to meet them. I’ve never felt the need to look until recently. I would love to tell them that they made the right choice for me and that I love them! I am happy and I love my life! But to be completely honest, there is that fear of rejection that lurks around the corner. My parents were so good at making sure I always knew that my birthmom loved me more than words can say. So why am I so nervous? Maybe I’ve been watching too much t.v.! :)

]]> By: WarsawMommy http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/06/skippy-was-adopted-too/comment-page-1/#comment-137 WarsawMommy Thu, 08 Apr 2010 08:24:08 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=197#comment-137 I am so lucky that I actually have nothing to contribute to this topic: my Dad was there when I was growing up, he LOVED being our father. He never hurt us, or hit us, or abandoned us. He was really wonderful. When he died one week before his 65th birthday, it was a huge blow to our family. And my husband? Is an excellent father! Loving, fun, involved. Our boys adore him, and love being held and kissed by their Dad. Like I said: I'm lucky that I have no idea what you ladies are talking about. This is truly an example of 'counting your blessings', huh? And finally: being in Poland, I have no access to this show '16 and Pregnant' but it sounds really hard to watch. I think I'd spend the whole time worried to death about the babies and what will happen to them. I am so lucky that I actually have nothing to contribute to this topic: my Dad was there when I was growing up, he LOVED being our father. He never hurt us, or hit us, or abandoned us. He was really wonderful. When he died one week before his 65th birthday, it was a huge blow to our family.

And my husband? Is an excellent father! Loving, fun, involved. Our boys adore him, and love being held and kissed by their Dad.

Like I said: I’m lucky that I have no idea what you ladies are talking about. This is truly an example of ‘counting your blessings’, huh?

And finally: being in Poland, I have no access to this show ’16 and Pregnant’ but it sounds really hard to watch. I think I’d spend the whole time worried to death about the babies and what will happen to them.

]]> By: Joy http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/06/skippy-was-adopted-too/comment-page-1/#comment-136 Joy Thu, 08 Apr 2010 02:28:07 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=197#comment-136 I'm all about being off topic! I couldn't comment earlier because I hadn't seen the whole episode but now that I have I will tell you that I bawled during this episode of 16 & Pregnant. It's a hard episode for me to watch because that poor kid wanted to father those babies so badly, and every time that little girl roller her eyes at him I wanted to grab her and ask her how she could be so ungrateful? Of course, the problem is that she's a kid and by the time she started to realize what she had - she had lost it. So sad. I’m all about being off topic! I couldn’t comment earlier because I hadn’t seen the whole episode but now that I have I will tell you that I bawled during this episode of 16 & Pregnant. It’s a hard episode for me to watch because that poor kid wanted to father those babies so badly, and every time that little girl roller her eyes at him I wanted to grab her and ask her how she could be so ungrateful? Of course, the problem is that she’s a kid and by the time she started to realize what she had – she had lost it. So sad.

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