As an adoptee, there was no adoption ceremony for my Birthmother. I was born and a few days later I went home with my Dad (who had jumped on a plane to come and get me). I doubt there was such a thing as adoption ceremony then – I believe the attitude was more one of getting the newborn out of the room and away from the Birthmother ASAP to avoid any bonding that might make it harder on the Birthmother. (I’m not saying I agree with this, I’m just saying from what I’ve gathered that was kind of how these things went.)
As a Birthmother, there was no adoption ceremony. My experience was much different than the one my birthmother had, but I must admit that such a thing as an adoption ceremony never really crossed my mind.
When I watched Lori’s episode of 16 and Pregnant, I was fascinated by the adoption ceremony that the adoptive parents held after Aidan was born. I feel like there was a chunk that we didn’t get to see, because frankly I found the back and forth with the roses to be kind of confusing.
I wonder if the adoption ceremony offers peace of mind or gives the birthmother a sense of closure? What do you think is it something that we should be seeing happen more often?
The jury is still out for me my friends but I look forward to your insight and possibly experience.
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I’m so glad someone else found the adoption ceremony interesting because that idea has really stuck with me. When I watched the ceremony I was taken aback by the thought because I had never heard of it. My first reaction was, “That is great! What a wonderful idea.” But, I too felt like something was left out. I began to think was this a ‘for-tv-thing’? Honestly, I love the idea! With our first adoption there was no such ceremony. For our second adoption, I would consider the idea. I would have an adoption ceremony if the birthmother and the birthfather felt it appropriate for their situation.
I still don’t really know anything about the Adoption Ceremony thing, or what all is involved. I do have a brother and sister-in-law that have adopted all three of their children. We have tried to have a special party or some such for them each time. I don’t believe that something involving the birth parents of their children would have ever really worked in their situation, but I think we (the extended family) always wanted to do something to make them feel all the love and support we could give.