Comments on: The First Good-Bye http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/29/the-first-good-bye/ One Birthmother's Journey through Adoption Tue, 31 Jan 2012 08:28:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Princess Sara http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/29/the-first-good-bye/comment-page-1/#comment-229 Princess Sara Tue, 18 May 2010 19:46:45 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=224#comment-229 Obviously, I don't know Rob. I don't agree with many of his choices as you've presented them. That being said, I think it might not be accurate to say "I loved him, Rob did not. To Rob, this wasn’t a baby or even a part of him." I can see the bit about him wanted to cut ties with you, but it's hard to discern another person's deep thought and emotions. As you have said, this was a man you thought you knew. I think sometimes people try to show that they don't care in order to cover for or cope with their own life. Maybe he didn't love the baby, but maybe he was just really, really lost in his own life. & yes, I think you handled the girlfriend trouble conversation well, I don't think anyone, male or female, should go to their ex for relationship advice. It just seems so callous. Obviously, I don’t know Rob. I don’t agree with many of his choices as you’ve presented them. That being said, I think it might not be accurate to say “I loved him, Rob did not. To Rob, this wasn’t a baby or even a part of him.” I can see the bit about him wanted to cut ties with you, but it’s hard to discern another person’s deep thought and emotions. As you have said, this was a man you thought you knew. I think sometimes people try to show that they don’t care in order to cover for or cope with their own life. Maybe he didn’t love the baby, but maybe he was just really, really lost in his own life.

& yes, I think you handled the girlfriend trouble conversation well, I don’t think anyone, male or female, should go to their ex for relationship advice. It just seems so callous.

]]> By: Joy http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/29/the-first-good-bye/comment-page-1/#comment-186 Joy Fri, 07 May 2010 17:22:25 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=224#comment-186 It's hard for me to comment back on this because it is so sad, but even worse - part of me was relieved that I wouldn't have to deal with him and I felt so selfish for that. I was also angry that he didn't care more about our son, but I just couldn't fight with him anymore. Long before that day in the Restaurant, I had said good bye to him - this was really just about letting go. It’s hard for me to comment back on this because it is so sad, but even worse – part of me was relieved that I wouldn’t have to deal with him and I felt so selfish for that. I was also angry that he didn’t care more about our son, but I just couldn’t fight with him anymore. Long before that day in the Restaurant, I had said good bye to him – this was really just about letting go.

]]> By: WarsawMommy http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/29/the-first-good-bye/comment-page-1/#comment-174 WarsawMommy Fri, 30 Apr 2010 07:49:14 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=224#comment-174 This is so sad... I mean for the baby. I agree it would have been nice for him to have a photo of his birth parents together, just to look at. Now even that small glimpse of his biological father is gone forever. It breaks my heart. So, so sad. This is so sad… I mean for the baby. I agree it would have been nice for him to have a photo of his birth parents together, just to look at. Now even that small glimpse of his biological father is gone forever. It breaks my heart.

So, so sad.

]]> By: Amanda http://decidingforlife.com/2010/04/29/the-first-good-bye/comment-page-1/#comment-173 Amanda Fri, 30 Apr 2010 03:30:25 +0000 http://decidingforlife.com/?p=224#comment-173 I need a tissue! I need a tissue!

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